How I became a caregiver

It’s not easy when you are required to become your wife’s caregiver, not only for the responsibility, but for the pain of seeing her in the position of not being able to care for herself. At first, I didn’t know what to do, but as time goes by you learn and adapt.

Homecoming – March 2014

Homecoming for Kay was March 8, 2014. She was admitted to the hospital on December 20, 2013 with a ruptured colon requiring emergency surgery. The doctor had to remove about 10 – 12 inches of her colon which left her with a colostomy. After spending 1 month in the hospital and 2 months in a rehab center (nursing home), I took her home and began my new role as caregiver.

While she was in the hospital and rehab, I had a ramp built and a new door put into from the back deck of the house. I also had a chair lift installed as the house was a 2 story house with all the bedrooms upstairs. (Since this time, Kay has been dependent on a wheelchair or a walker and unable to climb stairs)

Ramp for wheelchair access

I purchased several things to aide in our transition to our new challenges, but in the end I should have waited for some of them until we better understood what we were facing. On top of all that happened, I was transferred from Buford, Georgia to Salem, Oregon in July 2014. We made the move, leaving behind our family support network and began a new chapter in our lives.

In the coming blog posts, I’ll cover more details about our story and how we adapted.